What does a total makeover feel like? Hair, nails, wardrobe, makeup, you know, the works. A total re-invention of a person's exterior into a specimen of complete utter perfection, how does it feel? I mean it just changes your outer appearance so how much of an impact, if any, is there on the being within?

I always felt I was destined for more than what my disposition in life was offering me. Since I can remember, thoughts of things I would do when I finished high school would drift into my mind: get a piercing, and not just any piercing, a tongue ring; dye my hair red; change my wardrobe into one that consisted of only short and shorter items; party sacrilegiously from Wednesday to Sunday evening, every week. The list was endless. Basically, the main objective was to turn myself into a wild and rowdy, "sexified" party animal.

I did one; I dyed my hair red, and truth be told, it didn't make me feel any different. Besides giving me terrible hair breakage and split ends that would have Eva Longoria begging Revlon to sponsor me the next time I wanted to colour my hair, it didn't really do much for me. I mean, black guys don't really have that whole "I'm into redheads" thing and anyway at the rate I was losing hair, I didn't seem to have a future with hair, so I wasn't really scoring points with them either. So what was the point of it all?

Thinking about it now, I realize I was prepared to sacrifice my self respect for a couple of winks, whistles and a very bad reputation hot on their heels. I wasn't that vain then and I definitely am not now.

We are constantly hearing people preach about how one should be comfortable in one's skin, well I'm saying "YOU SHOULD BE COMFORTABLE IN YOUR OWN CLOTHES". I'm not saying makeovers are bad, we all need a change every now and then to jazz things up, but, who are we doing it for and why?

The biggest change you can make in life is to make yourself into a better version of the person you already are... That's what it is, because let's face it, nobody is going to love you if you don't love yourself first. #TrUtH